'Indeed patience is at the beginning of the calamity.'
(Bukhari & Muslim) *Weeping by the grave is an action that negates one's patience. The Prophet () passed by a woman who was weeping by a grave, and he said to her:
'Fear Allah and be patient.'(Bukhari & Muslim) *It is praiseworthy for one to accompany the funeral procession. The Prophet () said:
'He who witnesses the funeral and performs prayer will receive one Qeraat of reward. Whoever performs the funeral prayer and goes to the graveyard, will receive two Qeerat of reward. It was said: 'What is the Qeerat?' He said: 'they are similar to two great mountains.' (Saheeh at-Targheeb) *One should praise the dead and mention their virtues, and not be critical of them. The Prophet () said:
'Do not swear at the dead, for indeed they are being requited for what they have done.'(Saheeh al-Jami)
*One should seek forgiveness for the dead after he is buried. Ibn Umar () said that the Messenger of Allah () would stand after burying the dead and say:
'Ask Allah to forgive your brother and ask Him to make him firm for he is now being asked.'(Abu Dawood) *Giving condolences is not confined to a certain time or place. It is lawful for one to give it upon the death of the deceased and afterwards. It is better for one to give it as soon as possible, when the calamity is most greatly felt by the family. It is lawful to give it after three days from the time an individual has died.
*It is praiseworthy for one to comfort the family of the deceased by preparing food for them. The Prophet () said:
