Chosen Islamic Manners

*One should be on time for appointments with his brothers.
*One should love for his brothers what he loves for himself.
*One should do things for his brothers that will bring them closer.
*One should display altruism with his brothers.
*One should defend his brothers.
*One should do his best to take care of their needs.
*One should not listen to one who is spreading rumors about his brother.
*One should be kind to his brothers by doing good things for them.

*One should visit his brothers and not stay away from them.
*One should be patient with them if they are dry and harsh.
*One should be kind to his fellow brother and to his family.
*One should understand the personality of his fellow brothers.
*One should praise them with the good qualities that they possess.
*One should not be extra critical of his brothers and blame them for every mistake that they make.
*Whenever one receives a letter or message from his brother, they should acknowledge it by responding to it.
*One should accept the excuses of his brother, and one should meet him with a cheerful face. Al-Hasan b. Ali () said:

‘If a man swears at me in my ear and then apologizes in my other ear, I will accept his apology.’

*The Messenger of Allah () was asked about one who boycotted his brothers for one year. He () said:

‘Whoever boycotts his brother for one year is similar to one who spills his blood.’ (As-Silsilah as-Saheehah)

*One should supplicate Allah for his brothers. The Prophet () said:

‘A man’s supplication for his brother in his absence is accepted. There is an Angel who is by (that man’s head) who is assigned for this. Each time a man makes Du’aa for his brother, the Angel says: ‘Ameen, and may you have similar to it.’ (As-Silsilah as-Saheehah)

*Ibn Abbas () said: ‘There are three types of people I cannot repay and the fourth, only Allah can reward him. As for those I cannot reward: A man who made space for me in his sitting area, a man who gave me to drink while I was thirsty and a man who comes from a distance to my house asking me to resolve his problem. As for the fourth whom only Allah can reward him is him who direly needs something and stays up during the night thinking about it and in the morning when he sees me, he asks me to help him in his ordeal. This individual can only be rewarded by Allah. I feel ashamed if a man walks on my rug three times and thereafter I have not helped him.’
*Yahya b. Aktham, may Allah have mercy on him, said: ‘I mentioned to Imam Ahmed, may Allah have mercy on him, something about some of our brothers and he became upset and said:

My close companion and friend is not him who becomes fed up nor him who, when I am away sells me for another friend

My close companion and friend is one who is mindful of the friendship and safeguards my secrets with every other friend.

Manners One Should Uphold When in a Dispute
*One should not give priority to their intellect over textual proofs and should return to the Qur'an and Sunnah to resolve their disputes.

*One should not argue senselessly, cause hatred or divide people.