Generate various solutions to a problem. Encourage him to think of various options and to try to include everyone's needs and concerns.
Negotiation. To help him practice this conflict resolution technique, encourage him to be flexible, open, and look out for himself and other people's needs (assertiveness).
When conflict is mishandled, it can negatively impact children's relationships, self-esteem, and learning. However, teaching social conflict resolution skills can help significantly. There are some steps you can take to make resolving a conflict between children easier:
1. Calm and distance Give everyone a chance to take a breath from the other. Ask them what they need to calm down. Something that can be done is that they distance themselves from each other, walk, count to 10 or write what they feel on a piece of paper. What we must not forget is that, in any case, nothing coherent will come up in an argument with angry and emotionally fragile children. So ask them to determine the best way to calm down before trying to solve the problem.
2. Identification and understanding of the problem Once the children are calm, talk to each of them (at the same time or separately, depending on the circumstances) and help them identify their problem. Emphasize the importance of being honest and admitting to each other in conflicts. Encourage them to express their feelings about the problem and to listen to the other.
3. Proper apologies A good apology will communicate three things: regret, responsibility, and remedy or solution. Apologizing for a problem may seem difficult, but it will help repair and improve relationships with others.
Encourage each child (or just one, depending on the circumstances) to give the other a good apology. Writing it before saying it can be a good start, and then that letter can be delivered to the other child. In the case that the children are small, you can give them an example of how they can apologize. The children's apology It should include:
The word "sorry."
Recognize what has been done wrong.
The solution of the situation.
Better conduct promise next time.
Asking for forgiveness.
However, a bad apology is one in which the infant tries to justify her words or behaviors, blaming the other, with excuses and minimizing the consequences.
