| 18. One should be mindful of Allah. Allah, the Exalted, says:
for, verily, in the remembrance of Allah [men’s] hearts do find their rest. (13:28)
19. One should take ample rest throughout the day.
Manners of Giving Advice
*Be sincere when giving advice. Do it for the sake of Allah and do not give it while you hope for fame or intend to defame the one who you are advising.
*Give advice in a good manner, so that the one who is being advised will accept your advice. Allah, the Exalted, says:
Invite to the way of your Rubb with wisdom and good instruction, and argue with them in a way that is best. Indeed, you Rubb is most knowing of who has strayed from His way, and He is most knowing of who is rightly guided. (16:125)
*Give advice to an individual while he is alone, for it is more likely that he will accept your advice. Whoever advises his brother in public has ridiculed him and whoever gives advice to his brother in private has indeed helped him.
*One should be knowledgeable in that which he is advising an individual with. He should verify what he wants to say, so that he will order with the good or forbid evil in a knowledgeable manner.
*The one giving advice should take into consideration the state of the one he wants to talk to. He should take into consideration the person's feelings, status and work.
*The one who wants to give advice should apply the advice himself before giving it to others, so that he will not be among those who order with the good and forbid evil and then forget themselves. Allah, the Exalted, says:
And I do not intend to differ from you in that which I have forbidden you. (11:88)
*The one who gives advice should be patient if he is harmed in any way. Allah mentions what Luqman told his son:
O my dear son! Be constant in prayer, and enjoin the doing of what is right and forbid the doing of what is wrong, and bear in patience whatever [ill] may befall you: this, behold, is something to set one’s heart upon! (31:17)
He ordered him to be patient if he is harmed on account of ordering with the good and forbidding evil.
Manners of Congratulating Someone
*A praiseworthy manner of congratulating one is supplicating Allah to bless that individual. The Prophet () would make du'aa (i.e. supplication) and ask Allah to bless those who visited him.
*If he wants something, he should say: 'Please give me this, may Allah bless you.' The proof of this is that when the Prophet () asked the two angels to enter his house in Jannah, he prayed to Allah to bless them.
*One should be congratulated in a good manner for the knowledge that he has, and also when he is correct in a certain issue. The Prophet () did this with Ubai b. Ka'b when the Prophet () asked him about the greatest ayat in the Qur'an. (As-Silsilah as-Saheehah)
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