The Narratives Which Connect…

Appendix 6. Examples of transcribed and coded interviews

From the first interview with Erik (2)

Open codes 24 years ago Have you recognised the situation of having a child outside of a relationship in your work? Not directly But knowing the religious chapel house milieu has been usefu Insurance Christianity Open dialogue at home Do you recognise this? No Each weekend and every second Wednesday Is this a model?

Transcript P: How long ago was this, that you had children? E: It…(Anne) is…she’ll be 24 this summer. P:…Yeah, a grown-up girl…now then you say, this is one side of my life now. Are there any…if I was to ask about the relationship between that and cases you’ve worked with, are there any cases you remember that in a way have touched that part of your life? E: Not quite, like, directly but, I’ve thought that in some contexts, not that I’ve brought it out directly in relation to clients, I’ve thought that knowing the Chapel house milieu and that sort of thing, that that has been useful. I’ve also thought about this shifting between going from a religious background to actually go over into a, into a life where to believe in it, that that isn’t me. And that shift, but at the same time I think some…understanding, as well ehhh about that change that can happen and actually also a discussion with my own parents about that sort of insurance Christianity; it doesn’t hurt to continue being Christian, and that sort of thing as well and that was an open discussion at home…I’ve thought in many ways that I’ve been quite lucky in that, in spite of something that could seem narrow it wasn’t actually like that at home after all. There was the opportunity for quite an open dialogue about most things. P: Have you encountered that position or what should we say, that theme in your practice, that you yourself have been involved in, with in a way leaving… E: …not really, I don’t think… P:…no, no.. E: …I don’t really think so. P: The other part, that you’ve lived alone, is that what you’d say, which means that you’ve lived in your own apartment and had a partner, but one who’s also had their own place. E: And who didn’t live in any relationship either so that we were more or less free both of us to do what we wished and had our own sort of arrangement for being together as well. Each weekend and every second Wednesday. P: That was…(overlap) and over 14 years, you say so this was… E: Yes, over roughly 10 years… P: …OK, was a kind of model. Ehhh..mmm…Is this model in a way…what do you think about this way of living?

Research codes Sees no direct connection Sees a connection Helpful to know the Chapel house Sees no direct connection Family relationship

From the first interview with Karen (4)

Open codes Self-critical of cynicism Too strong word? Had to go into therapy to say no Badly treated Values and attitudes Good humour Does not cry Does not have the crying rags out

Transcript 94. K: – Luckily I had enough experience that I didn’t let it shine out too much, but I think I was probably a little quick to close – I mean it seems like you two can handle this – not without problems and suffering, but that you’re handling it well enough – I will suggest that we close there and you can come back instead if – I think so. But I was self-critical of that cynicism. 95. PJ cynicism – is that the best word you know to cover that? 96. K: – maybe that’s too strong – I don’t know what I should call it – call it that now then. 97. I don’t think it was so, - I think many of the difficulties were so trivial – and then – but I remember that those times – 98. PJ but then you were through your second break-up right? Was that more painful than the first for you? 99. K: – it had a very different character though. The first time it was more me that chose to leave – and then I had to go into therapy in order to say no, put the phone down and – But the second time it was more like I think I had been quite badly treated – I was more furious and angry and rejecting then – 100. PJ how long did that relationship last then? 101. K: – it lasted for 10 years – we lived together for 7 102. PJ when you think about what you yourself can display in the way of feelings, own attitudes and values and the like in the therapy room – what do you think about that – is there any of that that you in a way think you can present with – or how might one say – that you can share? Take feelings for example. 103. K:-yes, at the moment we share many feelings of having good humour – starting to laugh at something – not unusual. PJ crying then? K: – I don’t cry – not with anyone PJ no matter what dramatic stories they might tell? K: – don’t cry no PJ never done it either? K: – no, I don’t even have the crying rags out PJ no that’s true, they’re usually always out – you’ve got them under there then

Research codes Self-critical Own therapy Value Feelings